How to make your man last longer in bed?

Here are some tricks and facts

Vanessa Haber


How to make your man last longer in bed?

Although science has not determined the ideal time for sex, it does not have to be fast nor really slow, knowing that this is different from one person to another. When having sex, it is not only about reaching orgasm, but rather enjoying your body and your partner’s body, as well as exploring new intimate things to strengthen your relationship. So why rush things up?

Couples often wonder how to last longer when having sex, so here's what experts have to say about that, when you want more connection with your partner, as well as more orgasms.


It’s not about penetration

Relationship and sexuality educator Logan Levkoff says that sex doesn't have to be just for sexual intercourse, that is, penetration is not the last goal when having sex. Sexologist Jenny Skyler recommends diversifying things and activities through sex that spice up your sex life and make it an exciting and enjoyable experience.


Give time for Foreplay

Foreplay should not be an opening act before intercourse, but rather it should be done throughout sex session. This kind of play makes your sex last all night. “Women’s sexual response cycle varies from the average men’s sexual response cycle in that their arousal patterns tend to rise, fall, and plateau before a climax,” says Sari Cooper, a certified sex therapist

“Women can take full advantage by playing with their partner’s arousal levels through stimulating their more erogenous areas then focusing on stimulating less erogenous areas to bring the arousal down.” she added.


Sex games

Sex toys and games count as foreplay as well. Whether you choose to play sex cards game, handcuffing your partner or truth or dare sex game, these will definitely keep your man taking longer time in bed. These games also strengthen your relationship and make you discover sexual desires.


Try different sex positions

Urologist Lawrence Levine says: “Switching positions and trying different types of stimulation can provide continued arousal but maybe not to the point of orgasm.” If you take more time to reach orgasm than your man, this can help him pump the breaks while you enjoy the slow build.


Take a break

Sex isn’t a marathon so don’t rush things. Have little breaks with your partner, playing, kissing, cuddling, massaging, chatting or showering together during sex. Intimacy and sensuality mean a lot! "Maybe that's explicit sexual acts or maybe not,” says Levkoff. A shower together can be a part of the ongoing sexual experience, a steamy break before orgasm.